You probably wont be able to maintain this lifestyle afterwards so be prepared for that. Try to figure out what you’ll do after.
You’ll never be able to lose as much as your husband because men always lose more than women, so don’t worry about that.
Thank goodness you started this program because I didn’t want to say anything before, but you looked awful. But now you’re getting better.
You’ll probably gain about 15 pounds back after you stop the challenges. That’s normal.
Why can’t you eat fruit? Fruit is healthy. This probably isn’t a good diet if you can’t eat all fruits and veggies. Dairy is good for you too so you should be able to eat that too. Are you sure this is a healthy way to lose weight?
You look so good! Don’t stop because, think about what you looked like before.
We need to think about what things you can eat when you’re done. You don’t want to gain all the weight back and that’s very possible.
Well I would do that same diet but it sounds like a quick fix. It’s not realistic.
You’re crazy. That is way too extreme.
This is only going to get harder so you have to be tough. Those first 20 pounds are super easy to lose.
Make sure you’re not lifting heavy weights because you need to slim down. Not bulk up.
These are quite literally just a handful of the niceties that have been said to me during this process.
To. My. Face.
I’ve heard these from friends, family, loved ones, (and this is the best) acquaintances that barely know me.
My internal reaction is always something like one of the following GIFs. (I could have posted 100 of them.)
First of all, I am not being sensitive. I knowwww that people don’t mean these things maliciously (or at least that’s what
they I think to make themselves myself feel better). Actually, the majority of these conversations come from a really good place and I don’t blame people for thinking whatever they want to think. HOWEVER, sometimes thoughts should stay thoughts and not turn into words. When you say, “Oh you look so much better than what you looked like before.” Depending on the context of the conversation it can sound like “You were HIDEOUS!! Hideous, I tell you!!” I’m shocked at what comes out of peoples’ mouths. If I went around saying everything I thought out loud… Honey! I probably wouldn’t be employed.
Fortunately, none of this hurts my feelings. I’m not a heart on my sleeve, easily offended kind of person. I just laugh about the outlandish things people say with Michael or my mom.
The person that affects me the most is me. I am my biggest critic. So if a person thinks their words cut me, baby, you don’t know how deep I’ve already cut myself. I spent years perfecting the art of hating myself. Wishing I was someone or something else. Years believing I wasn’t good enough, smart enough, strong enough, thin enough, worthy enough. I believed wasn’t enough of anything. All because I was wielding the knife of comparison and slowly cutting myself to shreds. Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Well, I spent a lot of joy-less, unhappy years trying to be someone I wasn’t because I thought I was only good if I was like ____________. And you can fill in that blank with whatever name, quality, or characteristic that you’d like because I probably thought about it.
I also spent many of these years wearing a mask of indifference. If I pretended that I didn’t care, then eventually it must be true, right?
Some of you who know me well may be thinking, “But Heather you were raised in church. You know that the Bible says in Psalm 139:14 that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.” I do know that. I also know that Romans 5:8 says I am greatly loved, and Matthew 5:13-14 says I am the salt of the earth and the light of the world. Galatians 3:26 tells me I am a child of God.
But knowing and believing are two different things. It took me until I was in my late 20s, in the depths of depression, to start changing my beliefs about myself. I knew I believed in God and all the Bible says about Him, but I didn’t believe in what God says about me. So what did that say about my beliefs? They weren’t very strong after all.
I realized I was in a very unhealthy place in my life, mentally, physically, and spiritually. I started with my faith. I started reading my Word and looking for what God says about me because if God says it then no man can say otherwise. I would highlight and memorize and watch YouTube videos of every pastor you can think of. I would write down scripture and read it to myself in the mornings and before I went to bed. I practiced speaking life to myself because spiritually I was dead. Once I got my soul back in the right place, my mentality lined up. And it wasn’t until recently (10 weeks ago) that I really decided to work on the physical part of my life. Not because I wasn’t good enough the way I was but because I wasn’t satisfied with just being “good enough.” I wanted to Live My Best Life Now. (Did you catch that?)
So as I said before sometimes people say crazy things and they mean well with all their hearts and they aren’t trying to be rude. (Little effort is needed if that’s what you want to achieve btw.) But if you are the person opining to others you may not always be speaking to someone who has flexed their So-What muscle as often as I have. Some people are sensitive, some people can be derailed by your words and actions. Ephesians 4:29 says “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.“ Perhaps you aren’t a Bible believer so follow the sage words of Thumper the rabbit instead, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.”
Now, quickly, to those who genuinely think I can’t do this or who picture me returning to my old self… I implore you to keep reading, keep following, and keep waiting for the day that I give up. Hold your breath while you’re at it.
WEEK 10 RESULTS
And now… the moment you’ve all been waiting for… Week 10 Weigh-Ins!!! Tan-ta-tannnn!!!
This week was not my best result week. It was one of my best workout weeks. I even pulled a triple! That’s three workouts in one day. Not a triple axle or triple Salchow (I always thought that was “sow-cow” haha! The more you know…) I’m not an ice skater. And it was a great FTDI week. So not for lack of effort, but I didn’t lose too much this week. The scale continues to move downward though. However slowly.
I lost 1.3 pounds and Michael lost 4.5 pounds.
We are about 6 and 10 pounds away from our 2nd challenge goals. We’ve got two weeks left! Cheer us on!!
Here’s us! Looking fine!
This picture was taken shortly after I did archer pushups! Look them up. I’m a beast. Total non-scale victory! Even though I didn’t see a huge drop in numbers this week I had so many NSVs!
- I was able to do those archer pushups.
- I wore shorts. (I hadn’t allowed myself to do this in public in a LONG time.)
- My clothes is falling off because it’s so big.
- I did four rounds of battle ropes without stopping!
- Other things I can’t remember but I know I’m happy about them… 🙂
I feel myself getting stronger and my body is getting leaner and I love it!
I hope everyone has a lovely week. Remember, build each other up instead of tearing each other down.
Here are some happy gym pics. Click on them to make them large.