Last week I talked about the parade of negativity that comes rolling by sometimes. This week I want to change the tone…
Forget what others say to you or about you, and do what is best for you. THRIVE!
thrive • verb \ˈthrīv\
: to grow vigorously : flourish
: to gain in wealth or possessions : prosper
: to progress toward or realize a goal despite or because of circumstances
Let’s further examine these definitions. This is how I apply them to my life and questions I ask myself.
1. Are you growing and flourishing? Spiritually, mentally, emotionally? Be like a vine stretching towards the light and becoming ripe with fruit. Don’t let yourself be a plant that withers in the darkness.
2. For a moment don’t worry about physical possessions but just wealth. There are so many areas of our lives where we have wealth and don’t recognize it. Friendships. Family. Love. Health. Joy. Peace. If we think about the many ways we are wealthy, it then puts us in a different frame of mind and allows us to appreciate all the goodness in our lives instead of being stuck in a lack mentality.
3. The third definition is my favorite. I have not realized my goals yet but I am progressing towards them. Despite having to wake up at 4:00AM five days a week. Despite the soreness. Despite the sleepy afternoons. Despite how hard the workouts are or how much I want a piece of cheese. I am still pressing forward. I press forward because I want a better life. Because I want a future family. Because I don’t want my children to go through what I went through. Because I am worth the work. Because I love myself.
And that is where I am. I LOVE MYSELF. I love myself enough to do the work, to avoid bad habits, to ignore the negativity. I love myself enough to forgive my mistakes and shortcomings. I’m not perfect and have no intention of being so. My goals are not aimed at perfection but progress.
Loving myself is a brand new world for me. I mentioned this last week, but I battled very severe depression and anxiety for several years. Did people know I was depressed? Maybe. But not because I told them so. Depressed people often hide and mask their depression very well. But days turned into weeks that turned into months that turned into years where getting out of bed was so difficult it was physically painful for me. I would get irrationally angered if my husband complimented me. Heaven forbid he tell me I was beautiful because my mind would say, “He’s lying. He feels bad for you. You’re disgusting.”
I could list off a whole slew of symptoms and thoughts and actions that I went through but I don’t like to dwell on it. I talk about it because I know there are people that are in the throes of their own mental health issues. And I just want you to understand that it doesn’t have to last forever. Not everyday will be dark. But it does take work. It takes conscious effort to decide to get back to good mental health.
Please don’t misunderstand me. I’m not saying that I have it all figured out. I’m not saying that I live a perfect, happy life where everything is rainbows and sunshine. I do have rainbow sunshiny days but I have dark cloud rainy thunder days as well. It’s not about having only good days because that’s not real life. It’s about loving the good days and embracing the not so good days and finding reasons to push through those days and thrive in any circumstance. Good or bad.
11 Ways I Practice Positivity and Self Care
…It’s Week 11 so I only chose 11 things I like to do, but if you want a longer list or you have some ideas of your own please comment below!
- Turn off my phone. ⇒ I’m addicted so this isn’t easy but I always feel better if I take a couple of hours to myself.
- Speak life to yourself. ⇒ Look in the mirror and say at least 3 things that you love about yourself out loud. Speak positive affirmations every day. I know this sounds cheesy, but it works for me and that’s all that matters.
- Pay for a stranger’s coffee or lunch. ⇒ This might not sound like “self care” but the joy that comes from giving is so great! It will get you through a hard day.
- Read the Bible and talk to Jesus. ⇒ What better place would you look to find unconditional love that’s given freely to you? Who better than the Wonderful Counselor (Isaiah 9:6) to give us counsel?
- Have a dance party in your car. ⇒ I have regularly scheduled dance parties in my car every Friday morning on my way to work. So if you see someone having the time of her life driving down 281 or 410, it was probably me. Seriously though, good music will put you in a great mood and help set the tone for the rest of your day.
- Talk to someone you trust. ⇒ Having a good friend, family member, pastor, or therapist to turn to when you can’t handle the world helps to lighten the weight on your shoulders.
- Take a hot shower followed by a solid nap. ⇒ Breathe and relax and refocus your mind. Rest is so, so wonderful for you and often we don’t allow ourselves to have any extra.
- Write. ⇒ Get your feelings on paper (or screen). I have personally found blogging to be one of the most therapeutic activities I’ve ever tried.
- Find an activity that you love and do it. ⇒ For me that is reading or blogging. For you it might be cooking, skateboarding, knitting, mountain climbing, dancing, walking your dog. Whatever it is that makes you happy. Do that. A lot.
- Do some exercise. ⇒ Endorphins. Amirite? We all remember Legally Blonde. “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t.”
- Read a book. ♥
5AM Crew – These are just a few of my favorite people! They are wonderful to be around and make the time fly by during the work outs! – Get yourself a group or a friend to work out with! It helps so much!
Week 11 Weigh In Results
We’ve got one week left. I went into week 5 with a little trepidation because I still had to lose about 6 pounds and with only two weeks left I didn’t want to risk not losing the weight. So we’ve been very, very good this week. Last week I only lost 1.3 pounds, and I was a little surprised because I followed all the rules and worked out like a maniac. Doubles and triples, remember? So at the advice our Camp director, Greg, I took two days off from working out, Wednesday and Saturday. And I only did one double this week. He said I wasn’t giving my body enough time to rest or recuperate. So begrudgingly, I rested and recouped.
This was a HUGE week for us! I already posted this photo on Facebook, but I cannot express how proud I am of Michael.
For the first time in 15 years Michael is under 300 pounds. I get emotional just thinking about the look on his face this morning when he saw the scale. My husband works very hard and is always encouraging everyone around him. Sometimes I feel like he’s much more concerned for others than for himself. But to see him really take control of his health and work so hard to get to where he is gives me so much joy. I fall more in love with him every day.
I am officially at my wedding weight!! YAY!! I still have a long way to go but this was a milestone I was excited to hit.
This week’s stats:
- Weight lost this week: 6.9 lbs
- Total weight loss: 44.9 lbs
- Weight left to complete challenge: 2.9 lbs
- Weight lost this week: 5.5 lbs
- Total weight loss: 49.9 lbs
- Weight left to complete challenge: .5 lbs
We have one week left. Our final weigh in will be on Sunday the 28th. Michael mentioned that he was going to lose more overall weight than I am this challenge. I am SUPER competitive, so I suggested he put his money where his mouth is and we’ve made a friendly little wager. Tune in next week to see who wins!!
Have an amazingly blessed week and practice positivity and self care!
Remember: No one can love you like you can love you. ♥ (Except Jesus! He loves you more!)